Real Life

Often the craziest, most difficult challenges occur within ourselves. I don't mean a battle for your soul (which is the most difficult challenge you will ever face), but I mean the battle of feeling entirely comfortable in your own skin. I have been fortunate enough to meet people from many many different backgrounds, places, and cultures, and I truly believe one of humanities greatest conflicts is within ourself. Psychologically, many people don't believe that they are ultimately worth anything, or that they have a purpose on this earth. Confidence is a large reason why I am able to talk easily with people, make friends quickly, and show my leadership characteristics. But it is not necessarily even confidence that causes you to feel comfortable in your own skin (think of all the arrogant tryhards you've met); its the ability to realize that you are your own self, and you are not just the clone of someone else. You can be like me and can be dorky and ridiculous, or you can be overweight, loud, have buck teeth, and can't smile in public; but either way, you should be comfortable with the person you are. Understand that there is only one of you, and people like you for who you are. People judge and form opinions on people they don't know in under 14 seconds. Why try to impress or be different for someone who already has their opinion of you? Most often, no matter what you do or say, their opinion will never change. It can be modified, but what they thought when they first met you, is what they most likely still feel to this day. So be yourself, and don't change or try to be any different then what you really are.

So we understand that its important to be ourselves, and that we are worth something. But what is our greater meaning in life? Day after day, I meet beautiful girls that are drunks on the weekend and students during the week. I've never been attracted to a lifestyle like that, where drinking is required to have fun, or where drugs are needed to have a "good time." I think girls that are above that, where they aren't the stereotypical 8-4pm student and clubbing all weekend, are something to be admired. I'm all for having a good time, but does that require getting smashed to have it? So the next time I club and you see me with a glass of coke in my hand, realize I'm not about getting wasted and doing regrettable (but secretly not) things, I'm there to have fun, sober. We have a greater meaning in life other then just to party, and I believe most of my generation needs to grow up. When does responsibility for our behavior actually occur?